Never tell your friends to lower their standards, especially when it comes to relationships. As a friend, you, of all people, should be the one encouraging them to know their worth. You should be the one telling them that they deserve better things, great things. You should be the one supporting them in aiming for that person who would commit to them, won’t hurt them, and would take care of them.
If you’ve been on your own for a long time, you’d know what I am talking about. If you used your alone time to improve, take care of, and love yourself, you’d know what you want from a relationship. And knowing what you want is important. We live in a world where all people have opinions on everything about all life aspects. It is important that your decisions are not easily swayed or influenced by them, people’s thoughts. Remember, your happiness and well-being is at stake. You wouldn’t want to end in a situation that does not genuinely fulfill you, which could lead to unhappiness and regret.
Focus on what makes you happy. Being in a relationship, the thought that someone loves you and is sharing life with you should be a happy thought. Compromise is necessary, but not at the expense of your own happiness. But of course, shared happiness is the best thing. A truly fulfilling and remarkable relationship should be a source of happiness not just for you, but also for the person you’re with. There is no point in you being happy at the expense of your partner.
So, you do you. Find someone who has plans, if you must. Be with somebody who is willing to stand in line just to get you those coveted K-pop concert tickets. Look for that person who knocks at your door at 2 AM, smuggles you while you’re in your pajamas, and drives to the mountains so you can watch the sunrise together. Commit to someone who never lies to you. Spend your time with that person who makes the world a better place. Share your life with the one who makes you feel better about yourself and supports you in what you do.
If you find that person who truly makes you happy, never let go.
And if you don’t, it’s not the end of the world.
Happiness is not just about being with someone, remember that too. The world is huge, it is impossible not to find your own glimmer.
Just don’t settle for less.
